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35 Tips on Being a Pagan or Heathen Parent

1)      Keep it age appropriate and do what will work based on your kids maturity.

2)      It’s not just about what you want to do or your spiritual path its about theirs too. So don’t be surprised if they wind up on a different path then you.

3)      Make it fun and interesting for them.

4)      Play lots of games and do lots of arts and crafts.

5)      Keep rituals short don’t go longer than their attention spans.

6)      Make time to be able to go away and do your own thing.

7)      Don’t get upset if they don’t show as much interest as you wish they did. Don’t try to force it.

8)      Have other interests and hobbies to share with them too.

9)      Lead by example. Don’t just teach Harm None and the Noble Virtues DO THEM and then talk to your kids about how you live them.

10)   Let them have their own shrine and decorate it however they want.

11)   Read to them and with them and have them read to you.

12)   Don’t get ideas in your head about how they will grow up to be amazing High Priestesses or anything. Just let them grow into who they will be.

13)   Don’t live vicariously through them.

14)   Don’t treat them like trophies to show off.

15)   Monitor them and be a parent even at festivals and in ritual and stuff. The Pagan community is not your babysitter.

16)   Take every learning experience available and use it.

17)   Get outside with them as much as possible.

18)   Go camping lots.

19)   Have pets or friends who have pets. Take them to riding ranches and to volunteer to walk dogs at the SPCA and stuff. They can learn responsibility and have friends who are part of nature that way.

20)   Let them pray the way they want to pray.

21)   Tell the story about their Naming Day just like you tell the story of the day they were born.

22)   Celebrate little things and big things together.

23)   Find good role models and adopt some aunties and uncle in the community. Kids aren’t always going to want to talk to you or look up to you so they need other adults.

24)   Educate them as best you can. School is important. Even if it’s home school or an alternative school.

25)   Teach them to love to learn by loving to learn yourself in front of them. Get excited about learning new things.

26)   Take them to museums and historical sites.

27)   Tell them stories from their heritage like how great-great-grandpa came to Canada.

28)   Teach them to be full of wonder and reverence for the Earth by being that way yourself.

29)   Smile lots. Smile at them. Don’t let the stress of having kids make you frown all the time.

30)   Go on adventures together.

31)   Let them make their own rituals tools and get glitter everywhere.

32)   Don’t put so much time and energy into your spirituality that you don’t spend enough time with them.

33)   Remember your kids are more important than your gods and the gods are okay with that. Family always comes first.

34)   Teach your kids to be proud to be Pagan or Heathen and not to hide it like a dirty secret.

35)   Give a kid enough self esteem, love, security, strength and smarts and the bullies won’t hurt them no matter how hard they try.

Daxton and Askel Review: Christopher Penczak’s Sons of the Goddess

Daxton says:

So the kid was getting tired of reading books for kids and teens and I was too. Alot of the stuff was pretty aimed at girls and very light reading. We both started feeling talked down to and most of the content was things he already knows from being raised heathen/pagan.  I decided to switch gears and surprise him with something a little more grown up and manly. So I bought him Christopher Penczak’s Sons of the Goddess: A Young Man’s Guide to Wicca.

I think I really rocked his world getting a book for MEN. This book is aimed at young guys but still not kids, guys in their late teens and twenties. It’s still a 101 book but not as dumbed down like a lot of the other books we have been reading.

I am glad I got this book because it really made my kid shine and it opened up a lot of conversation topics for us that I’ve been trying to get going but couldn’t. Like talk about sex and sexuality and macho bullshit and being a good guy and treating other people with respect and how to treat your own self and body with respect and how to treat ladies like they are equal but not be down on yourself for being a “male pig”. There is also a lot on honour, ethics and responsibility which I was very glad to see.

This book is too advanced and wordy to read out loud to each other like we did the other ones so instead we took turns reading a chapter and then talked about it. We usually talked about it while driving around, going for walks or working on the property. I think that worked better than sitting there staring at each other. We also worked through a few of the “assignments” in the book together.

A few chapters could have gone into more depth I think and been fleshed out more but overall it was a good book.

 

 

Askel says:

OMG a book that treats me like I have a brain! I really liked that this book isn’t for girls either. It’s by a guy for guys and that was really exciting.  No stupid spells on how to improve your self esteem or make the mean girl stop gossiping about you.

There were already a lot of the same subjects we read about in the other books and that my Dad taught me but it was a little different this time. This is because Mr. Penczak writes everything from a man’s point of view and doesn’t make it sound all cute. His stuff is easy to understand but doesn’t make you feel stupid. I also like that he really explains stuff. Most of the other books have one page on Circle casting he had like a whole chapter on it! I felt like I was really learning how to do it and not just being given a rough idea on how to do it.

The mediations and exercises we did were really cool and I think some of them I will do by myself too. There were a couple that Dad said I should wait to do until I’m older and that’s okay.

I really liked all the mythology in this book and that he covers lots of different mythologies too. I really liked the myths about Horus. I also liked how he explains the myths and doesn’t just tell them to you.

The magick and spells were much more advanced than the teens books we read and he actually explains how they work and why and not just listing a bunch of herbs and candles to use.

One of the best things about this book was when he would tell stories about when he was a new pagan and the silly things he did and the mistakes he made. Some were really funny but mostly they just made me feel good and like I don’t have to be perfect.

 

We give this book 4.5 out of 5 stars

 

Daxton is in his late thirties and is a single Dad who lives in the Yukon territories with his 3 kids, his Mum, a yellow lab named Rulf and two shaggy ponies named Sparkle and Sparky. Daxton is a former logger who now works in forestry conservation. He is dedicated to Odin and Frey.

Askel is thirteen years old and has been raised Heathen/Pagan. He likes walking in the woods and playing video games. He is interested in Witchraft, Mythology and Shamanism. He loves his dog and thinks the names for the ponies he shares with his younger sibling are stupid but he loves them anyways.